cebii

old and new

We've had this stomach thing running around the house, and with so many of us it has taken so long. S has it now, but she is bucking up and trying to make it through school because she has a performance tonight. It is pretty much a 24 hour thing, except for BG's little boy (20 months old) He does not seem to be as hardy as our twins. They were clingy and had diarrhea, but still active. He was laid out and throwing up as well as the rest. His mother, BG, is beginning to see the benefits of feeding real food and milk and keeping things clean. This is the first time he's been really sick since they've been up here.

K is convinced that she needs to move out of the house as soon as possible. She'll be eighteen in November. I don't think she is ready. Three classes a day in high school and working less than 16 hours a week lays her out with anxiety. Don't know how she plans on translating that into any kind of college hours and supporting herself. The state provides some support such as medicaid and covering college costs, and she'll get some money to get set up in an apartment and maybe cover a few living expenses, but she'll still have to work. She wants a car, and we've told her we'll get her an old clunker or a really cheap new Kia or something, but only if she's working and can pay part of the insurance. If she is still living with us, we'll give her a tank or so of gas a month, but the rest is up to her.

How do you teach kids that a certain age doesn't make you grownup? The freedom that they expect - being able to make your own decisions and choose your own destiny - only come with (although I hate to say it) money. If you can't support yourself, you are stuck following the wishes of those who can/will support you.

posted by cebii @ 8:53 AM