lionmom's blog
Lionmom accidently posted some info that members of one of our kids' bio families did not know. The child was de-identified, but they figured it out. We didn't know that they didn't know, and I didn't know that they read the blog. Anyway, all hell broke loose and we didn't get much sleep that night. Lionmom pulled her blog and is pondering what to do next.
vindictiveness
After preaching endlessly to my kids about the pettiness of being vindictive, I went and did it myself. E has my cell phone. She was supposed to take the sim card out of her broken phone and put it in mine, then send me my sim card so I can activate the cool new one that i have. Well, she threw her phone somewhere in a fit of anger with BG, so she doesn't have her sim card now, and she's just been using my phone. I don't mind so much, except it's been a couple of weeks and I would like to have it back. So, I went to the Cingular store and had them activate my number on my new phone. E is SOL. Holly will probably get mad since we are going down there soon to exchange cars and we will have mucho difficulty getting hold of her. I let my petty side take over and it is too late to fix now.
my toe hurts
okay - it isn't broken, and it was doing much better after the mess earlier this week, then I stubbed it this morning and it still hurts. that was my whine for the day.
We have tons and tons to do before the trip next month. We missed all the deadlines for getting passports for everyone. Now, we're just trying to make sure that all of the kids have photo id's. Holly is going to take them all down to DPS to get state issued id's, at least for the ones that don't have driver's licenses.
btw - Ro passed her driving test!! She officially has a driver's license!! Tons of driving stress has just been sloughed off!!
That should be all the id the two eighteen year olds and E (if she still decides to go) need. Melinda and S will need id plus paperwork that shows they are in care and we have custody and the court gives them permission to travel with us. We carry a green zip binder with all the info in it when we travel. I wonder if we still need to have their birth certificates to prove they are US citizens. yikes.
I just want to go and have everything be fine and to get married.
by the end of the summer, Holly and I and the twins will have passports, I swear. The paperwork is complete for Holly and me, we just have to get off our butts and take it to the post office. My adoption has not yet gone through, so we will wait until it does to do the twins, so that both our names will be in all the official places. It should go through soon, though.
We plan on adopting S in November. She will be sixteen then, and eligible for the max amount of state benefits. Her freakin' case worker still has not done the paperwork to get her name change the judge ordered 18 mo ago official, so I guess we'll just wait until we the adoption is final and use that for the name change so she doesn't have to do a change on her passport.
sounds about right.
| Your Personality Is |
Rational (NT)
You are both logical and creative. You are full of ideas.
You are so rational that you analyze everything. This drives people a little crazy!
Intelligence is important to you. You always like to be around smart people.
In fact, you're often a little short with people who don't impress you mentally.
You seem distant to some - but it's usually because you're deep in thought.
Those who understand you best are fellow Rationals.
In love, you tend to approach things with logic. You seek a compatible mate - who is also very intelligent.
At work, you tend to gravitate toward idea building careers - like programming, medicine, or academia.
With others, you are very honest and direct. People often can't take your criticism well.
As far as your looks go, you're coasting on what you were born with. You think fashion is silly.
On weekends, you spend most of your time thinking, experimenting with new ideas, or learning new things. |
pride
Ben learned how to swim yesterday. This year he and his twin graduated from the heads up life jackets of last year to the
learn to swim types. I was afraid he was a bit too small, but once he got his balance, he started kicking and swam across the pool. Within an hour, he could go down the slide, wasn't phased when his head went under water, get oriented and swim 15-20 feet to get out of the pool on his own, then went back down the slide.
contiuum
S had a great day yesterday and a good morning this morning. That kid is so wonderful when she is on top of things. She knows it. She likes the feeling it brings her and the positive interaction with us, but she doesn't have the control to keep it up all the time. She is better - we used to deal with her angry victim most of the time, now she is fun more often than not.
I cringe as I think of some of the tactics we used to get where we are. She used every interaction to maintain her control, so we had to limit everything. I was brought up in a house full of hugs, and it hurt to push her away and insist that we couldn't hug until I wanted to. How much energy did we all spend as Holly and I sat, trying to maintain our own calm, watching her scream and flail and tantrum, hours at a time, until she would calm herself enough to at least verbally admit to responsibility for something.
Now she rarely tantrums - even the most recent visit with her brother didn't set her off, even though it was upsetting for her.
M needs to go through some of the same stuff. It will look different with her, because, as S was stuck as a six year old, M was thrust into adulthood. She has taken care of herself for most of her life and doesn't see why she should give that up. She does love us, and she plays the game to fit in and stay with us, but I don't know if she has hit the wall yet.
It has to work, though, right? We can't afford the price of failure. Or maybe, we just have to accept the final results for what they are.
disease
I haven't posted in a long time. Don't know why, tons of stuff has happened.
I talked to one of my cousins last night for a long time. I have lots of cousins on my moms side of the family, and Shirley is on the older end and I'm on the younger end, so we never really knew each other. But, since she is the most prolific emailer of the Colorado branch of our family, she ended up sort of being the Colorado contact and we've emailed quite a bit.
I started the conversation the led to the call by an email asking if she (a registered nurse) understood why there is so much blood-born disease, including leukemia, in multiple generations of our family, yet doctors insist that it is environmental. We talked about that, which of our many uncles and aunts had what, etc, trying to narrow things down. There are two diseases which ARE hereditary and per the doctors, in my family: hemachromatosis and Hemoglobin LaPore. One tends to make one have too much iron in their blood and the other causes iron to build up in organs, primarily the liver, I think. So, as you can imagine, together they can be deadly. Shirley's mom died of the combo and began all the research into our family. Now, if one has both, they treat it with diet and phlebotamy (sp?)and no one else has died of them. But, several of our aunts and uncles and cousins, including my sister and her brother, have gotten leukemia, and my mom had a disorder that often leads to leukemia, but never did in her case. My mom and sister both carried the LaPore condition, and Shirley said her mom and brother did, too. We are going to try to check and see who else does or did.
In my immediate family, we are trying to teach the teens to love themselves. The younger two, especially, have been exhibiting damaging behavior, though they don't see it that way. It is so hard. They are all so wonderful, but they just don't have the breadth of experience to see beyond the immediate present.
The babies are great. They don't look like babies anymore, more like toddlers. I'll have to start calling them the twins.
